Getting past the negativity when working out pt. 2
There have been hundreds of articles on gym etiquette, how terribly people have been treated at the gym, mocking new members, etc., and they’re all better written than you’ll get from me on a
Friday Monday at 8am.
This is the second part of a two part post (part one here):
2. Hating the people who AREN’T to work out the way you have. This is a weird one, and the reason I broke the post into two parts. I feel like this takes a little bit of explaining, or at least some justification.
If, by now, you’ve gotten the idea that I spend a good part of my days walking around outside, you’d be right. During that process, especially in the Mid-Ohio Valley, I encounter all sorts of people doing all sorts of terribly unhealthy things. Skipping over those drug users, crack addicts, and hooliganry for a moment, we have a LOT of people who live on fast food. I was certainly one of them for a LONG time. I’d guess I see four or five people per evening walk, parked by the river with the AC blasting, chowing down on Burger King or Wendy’s.
These people MAKE ME ANGRY. I know it’s wrong, and hell, I’m certainly not one to judge, but how dare they not decide to take the same weight loss steps I have? How dare they not sacrifice delicious and terrible food in exchange for the same healthy goals I have?
It’s unnerving. I obviously never used to blame fat people for being…fat…I mean, I was one of them! One of us! The idea that they’re somehow different and wrong now offends my sensibilities. I didn’t lose weight for superficial reasons, and I didn’t do it because I hated myself. That I’m hating these people for being themselves, happy, and clearly satisfied? Bugh.
Focusing on yourself and your goals, and remembering that not everyone wants the same things is key. Diving into my run and getting those steps just a little quicker (and further from the smell of fries) helps me tire out my mind or distract me from this irrational dislike. Helping people figure out their own journey, when asked, and not pushing your standards on them is key. Not everyone is where you’re at. I just have to keep reminding myself of that some days.